How the Universe Confirms I'm Right Where I Need to Be
Every year I have a tradition of posting a new article or poem or story for the 12 days leading up to Christmas. Yesterday for 12 Days of Christmas, I published a poem that I’d started a few years ago. It’s a letter to an oak tree that used to be in front of the house I owned. I say used to not because the tree isn’t there anymore, but just because it’s no longer my house.
It was a way of saying thank you, goodbye, and asking for some help, too. You know, all from a tree that may or may not actually be an oak tree. And all in a poem. Because poems can do that.
Anyway, a friend suggested I drive by the house to take a picture of the actual tree, so I did today. It’s beautiful.
But then something really wild happened, wild and cool enough that this is the story for today’s 12 Days of Christmas article. An interruption to your regularly scheduled programming.
A Total Universe/God Moment Today
I wanted to share how cool this serendipitous universe/God moment was today.
I had a coaching session with a woman who found me online several days ago and was interested in some help with communicating to her boyfriend that she wants to break up.
We did some roleplays and worked through some examples of communication and emotional regulation strategies to communicate with him that she’s done with the relationship and wants him to move out of her house. We worked on helping her feel confident that a breakup doesn’t have to be a conversation or negotiation. Especially when you’re dealing with an emotionally abusive manipulator. She realized that she doesn’t need to explain or defend herself. Great.
But then, she dropped a bombshell. He’s on the deed, and the mortgage. Uh oh.
Just a small tidbit we missed. And I realized even I made the mistake of assuming “her house” meant “only” her house instead of asking to confirm. Mental note for next time.
No longer just a breakup convo—but a legal issue
So then the conversation switched– it was no longer about how to communicate with him about breaking up—now it was about speaking with some legal professionals about what her options are.
This conversation felt like deja vu in so many ways. It felt like she was telling my story– about the house that I had just written about just hours prior.
I felt like I was talking with a former version of myself. One who didn’t understand boundaries, self-worth, and was stuck in patterns of putting everyone else first.
I was able to be a voice to her from the future– of this is what you could feel like, 5 years from now.
And it wasn’t about sugar coating anything–I told her that this was going to be incredibly difficult and emotionally trying. And that she’s going to need to learn how to lean on people she can trust to hold her through this time.
And most of all– she needed to hear that she’s going to get through this. That it won’t always be this hard.
I recorded a video (embedded above on this post) just after I finished my session with her, recapping what a fulfilling experience it is to be able to use my hardest moments of life and the lessons I learned from them to help someone else.
It’s such a powerful, emotional feeling.
It’s a way of the universe letting me know I’m exactly where I need to be. And she was, too.
And that it’s all going to be okay.
And to keep going.
There’s more magic to be revealed.
Anyway, I wanted to share that gratitude with you all. A picture of what fulfillment really looks and feels like on a deep level. Being able to be of service to someone in a deeply personal way.
I’m so grateful to be where I am today.
So if you’re going through a tough time—keep going. The best version of you is on the other side, cheering you on.
And they are so proud of you, and how far you’ve come.
And I’m proud of you, too.
Love,
Jolie
P.S. Oh wise oak, of course you remember me. Thank you.
